scoop 3,432 Posted July 26, 2015 Share Posted July 26, 2015 Lend me your words of advice/encouragement, internetmen and internetwomen. Link to comment https://vhlforum.com/topic/22390-life-help-thread/ Share on other sites More sharing options...
scoop 3,432 Posted July 26, 2015 Author Share Posted July 26, 2015 (edited) So here's the situation I'm in. I have this friend from High School. We didn't really start to hang out until maybe halfway through senior year. She had a boyfriend at the time but eventually she didn't and I was into her, but never made a move because 1) betaproblems and 2) we were gonna be leaving for college eventually anyway. We stayed in touch a bit and occasionally hung out during breaks. Last weekend I had my five-year high school reunion. It was the first time in about a year that I had seen her. We talked and joked and it was good. I'm going to be seeing her on Monday to play some tennis, and when I do, I'm planning to ask her to a Twins game. tbh this is the point where I should stop thinking, but I'm not going to. I can't help but try to over analyze this before it even happens, and that's a major flaw. I've never asked her out on a date, which is my intent here. Whether or not she'll pick up on that, I don't know, but I'm assuming she will. But since we've been friends for a while, I don't know for sure. I'll try to figure that out based on her reaction. I know it's possible that she'll ask about my intent and I'll tell her. But it's if she doesn't that is where I am stuck. Do I bring it up right there? Or do I wait until the day of and bring it up after (if I felt good about how it went)? Obviously situations will differ based on the people and the exact nature of the relationship between them, and since you guys don't know these things, you may be unable to help. I don't really know what I'm looking for from you, maybe just a general idea of what you think I should probably do, or maybe just words of encouragement. idk, but just talking about it makes me feel better about it. Edited July 26, 2015 by Streetlight Link to comment https://vhlforum.com/topic/22390-life-help-thread/#findComment-248785 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil 5,119 Posted July 26, 2015 Share Posted July 26, 2015 Just listen to your penis. He knows the way. stevo and HF92 2 Link to comment https://vhlforum.com/topic/22390-life-help-thread/#findComment-248795 Share on other sites More sharing options...
scoop 3,432 Posted July 26, 2015 Author Share Posted July 26, 2015 also lol I remember back in the past during paragraph 1 when I talked to nagger about this girl. Link to comment https://vhlforum.com/topic/22390-life-help-thread/#findComment-248796 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Admin Victor 10,946 Posted July 26, 2015 Admin Share Posted July 26, 2015 I spend a lot of time on an internet hockey sim league. What do? Ninetyfourgoalie 1 Link to comment https://vhlforum.com/topic/22390-life-help-thread/#findComment-248798 Share on other sites More sharing options...
scoop 3,432 Posted July 26, 2015 Author Share Posted July 26, 2015 I spend a lot of time on an internet hockey sim league. What do? good point. time to retire. Link to comment https://vhlforum.com/topic/22390-life-help-thread/#findComment-248799 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Admin Victor 10,946 Posted July 26, 2015 Admin Share Posted July 26, 2015 No I need you for S50. Link to comment https://vhlforum.com/topic/22390-life-help-thread/#findComment-248804 Share on other sites More sharing options...
scoop 3,432 Posted July 26, 2015 Author Share Posted July 26, 2015 No I need you for S50. what's happening in S50 Link to comment https://vhlforum.com/topic/22390-life-help-thread/#findComment-248809 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Admin Victor 10,946 Posted July 26, 2015 Admin Share Posted July 26, 2015 epicness Link to comment https://vhlforum.com/topic/22390-life-help-thread/#findComment-248814 Share on other sites More sharing options...
boubabi 4,725 Posted July 26, 2015 Share Posted July 26, 2015 Da Trifecta 1 Link to comment https://vhlforum.com/topic/22390-life-help-thread/#findComment-248817 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Admin Victor 10,946 Posted July 26, 2015 Admin Share Posted July 26, 2015 Someone who knows how relationships work will provide a good answer soon, promise. scoop 1 Link to comment https://vhlforum.com/topic/22390-life-help-thread/#findComment-248819 Share on other sites More sharing options...
scoop 3,432 Posted July 26, 2015 Author Share Posted July 26, 2015 you guys suck :L Link to comment https://vhlforum.com/topic/22390-life-help-thread/#findComment-248820 Share on other sites More sharing options...
boubabi 4,725 Posted July 26, 2015 Share Posted July 26, 2015 And watching Shia LeBoeuf motivation video did help? Ball 1 Link to comment https://vhlforum.com/topic/22390-life-help-thread/#findComment-248821 Share on other sites More sharing options...
boubabi 4,725 Posted July 26, 2015 Share Posted July 26, 2015 Thats my trick... at least Link to comment https://vhlforum.com/topic/22390-life-help-thread/#findComment-248823 Share on other sites More sharing options...
scoop 3,432 Posted July 26, 2015 Author Share Posted July 26, 2015 (edited) And watching Shia LeBoeuf motivation video did help? yea Thanks be to Shia, I did it. I listen to Shia every morning. That's a lie. I'm sorry I lied. mfw Edited July 26, 2015 by Streetlight Link to comment https://vhlforum.com/topic/22390-life-help-thread/#findComment-248824 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Admin Victor 10,946 Posted July 26, 2015 Admin Share Posted July 26, 2015 don't let your dreams be dreams Link to comment https://vhlforum.com/topic/22390-life-help-thread/#findComment-248825 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Higgins 3,618 Posted July 26, 2015 Share Posted July 26, 2015 Have fun Link to comment https://vhlforum.com/topic/22390-life-help-thread/#findComment-248826 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamie 438 Posted July 26, 2015 Share Posted July 26, 2015 If she doesn't get the intent, buy her a hot dog at the ball game and tell her it's not the only one you want to give to her today James, Will, scoop and 1 other 4 Link to comment https://vhlforum.com/topic/22390-life-help-thread/#findComment-248828 Share on other sites More sharing options...
scoop 3,432 Posted July 26, 2015 Author Share Posted July 26, 2015 You guys are a wonderful help, and I mean it. Link to comment https://vhlforum.com/topic/22390-life-help-thread/#findComment-248829 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fire Tortorella 2,653 Posted July 26, 2015 Share Posted July 26, 2015 Use the word date if that's your intent. Shows confidence and doesn't muddy the water with regards to intent. From my gf," I'd really like to take you out on a date. Would you be free for a Twins game next week?" Seriously, don't over think this. JUST DO IT Link to comment https://vhlforum.com/topic/22390-life-help-thread/#findComment-248834 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil 5,119 Posted July 26, 2015 Share Posted July 26, 2015 Yea, Honestly, go for it. If you don't you'll spend the next 5 years wondering what could have been until you get to your 10th year high school reunion and find out she's married with a kid. It may be 2-3 minutes of awkwardness, but you have to sometimes just put yourself out there. So straight up ask her to the Twins game as your date. That's my honest advice Link to comment https://vhlforum.com/topic/22390-life-help-thread/#findComment-248835 Share on other sites More sharing options...
scoop 3,432 Posted July 26, 2015 Author Share Posted July 26, 2015 You guys are the best I'm also going to hang out with some close irl friends tomorrow and I'm sure I'll talk about it with them as well. Link to comment https://vhlforum.com/topic/22390-life-help-thread/#findComment-248838 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ball 453 Posted July 26, 2015 Share Posted July 26, 2015 Just do it, the worst thing she can say is no and if thats the case fuck that shit, life goes on my brotha. Plus if worse come to worse, ill go to the game with ya street Link to comment https://vhlforum.com/topic/22390-life-help-thread/#findComment-248839 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senior Admin Will 4,660 Posted July 26, 2015 Senior Admin Share Posted July 26, 2015 inb4 Jardy's misguided and probably drunken advice Victor, scoop and Munk 3 Link to comment https://vhlforum.com/topic/22390-life-help-thread/#findComment-248847 Share on other sites More sharing options...
JardyB10 4,865 Posted July 26, 2015 Share Posted July 26, 2015 I find it helpful to remember that there's not a lot you can do to influence how she feels. By that I mean, either she likes you in enough of a sense that she would date you, or she doesn't. Normally I wouldn't be too forthright about the "date" word and just go for drinks or something, but since you've known her for quite a while I would say that you ought to. So say something to the effect of what Mrs. J-Gow suggested, and if she accepts and she touches your knee later, that's a great victory. But if she says, "Ahh, I like you, but as a friend," then that's fine too. You can shrug and be like, "It's cool, I was just checking," because really, that's all you are doing. Maybe things will be weird with her after, but whatever, you spent most of college apart, and that's what she gets for being cool and diggable. But now you know where you both stand and you can resume life and maybe touch one of her friends' boob. Either way, you tried, and there's no bad way it can really play out. Awkward, maybe, but we're awkward people. We can handle it. Munk 1 Link to comment https://vhlforum.com/topic/22390-life-help-thread/#findComment-248848 Share on other sites More sharing options...
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